A few years ago, I was on a date. It was 11pm; we were in the city and walking back to his place. My date, who later became my boyfriend, is a charming and intelligent African Australian, deeply attuned to his own racial identity — as you would have to be growing up brown in Australia. I am an Asian-Australian woman. It was our third date. We were on Lonsdale Street when a group of loud, drunk white men stumbled in front of us.

KIM November 15, Which begs the question: why? I sometimes ask that aloud. Nor should we feel obligated to constrain our options to Asian men. But too often, Asians are as guilty as anyone in refusing to see Asian men as sexual partners.

Editor-in-Chief Aneesa Conine-Nakano shares personal anecdotes about the skewed physical perception of Asian people and growing up around that. I have seen similar Snapchat stories and tweets that all reflect a common perception: Asian is synonymous with ugly. The hurtful part is seeing people I consider friends liking these posts. Do they not see the blatant racism? Did they not read the post fully?